We know it may not feel like it now, but a diagnosis doesn’t mean a life without getting it on and getting off – self-initiated or otherwise.
Whether it’s your mind, body, soul, or all three that need a little TLC, our guide to post-diagnosis pleasure and intimacy will get you on the path to really feelin’ yourself again
MIND
Give the most powerful sexual organ you own the memo: cancer ain’t sexy, but YOU are.
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BODY
Changes may be challenging. But they can also be better. Arm yourself with anatomical know-how, community tips & lots of lube. Never forget the lube.
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SOUL
Single?
Partnered up? Poly?
However you like doing it (and whoever you like doing it with) we’re here to help you own your power, and pleasure, in intimate instances.
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE
ENGAGE IN SOME
PERSONAL FOREPLAY
A few affirmative actions for stepping up your self esteem
MIRROR, MIRROR
Get a good, long & hard look at yourself in the mirror. It might sound easy, but can bring on the ick real quick. Resist the urge to look away. Keep staring. Look deeper. Get to know every curve, swerve and line. The longer you look, the more chances you have to fall in love. And, as someone wise always says, “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”
DO THE WRITE THING
Grab a diary get your thoughts down – positive ones, negative ones, dirty ones.
Be honest and try not to judge, just write. How do you feel about your body? How would you LIKE to feel about your body? What do you want to DO with your body?
All these can be the basis of things you want to work towards. Plus, as time goes on, you’ll see how far you’ve come.
GET NICE & AFFIRM
A few positive affirmations a day can keep the inner critic at bay.
“I deserve pleasure”
“I choose me”
“I got this”
These words can be literally whatever speaks to you. Grab ‘em from anywhere. A saying, a slogan on a t-shirt, a song lyric, something your BFF said while drunk.
Whatever you choose, repeat out loud throughout the day. Best believe you’ll be believing it soon.
GO COMMANDO
& CONQUER
Let’s get one thing straight. Sexy is about how you feel, not a label someone else “gifts” you.
When you need to make it happen on your own terms, there aren’t many things more powerful than knowing what’s going on underneath your clothes… even if it’s nothing at all.
Sexy undies are supreme confidence boosters. Going commando is NEXT LEVEL. It’s your little secret, for you and you alone.
TUNE INTO YOU
Supercharge a latent libido by sticking on some grown and sexy music.
A sultry 90s slow jam…
A deep raunchy cut…
A classic blast of Bazza White’s dulcet tones…
Whatever you choose, just make it the stuff that gets you fully in the mood. Let the lyrics do the talking. And turn that sh*t up to 11.
RUB-A-DUB-LOVE
Feel yourself to feel yourself…
Exploring where and how you like to be touched can help you get comfortable in your own skin again.
When applying cream or lotion, run your fingers across sensitive areas, like your scars, and note the sensations. Has anything changed? What feels good to you? Are there any areas you’re avoiding?
LITTLE BLACK BOOK
Go deeper with reading, resources, support networks & more to explore.
